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The From Betrayal to Breakthrough program is a powerful system for helping Christian women find the clarity they need about their marriage in just 90 days, without the obstacles of indecision, self-doubt, or fear of regret--so they can finally feel good about moving forward from the discovery of betrayal in the marriage.

So if you want a crystal clear and predictable roadmap to help you figure out if you want to:

A) confidently stay with your husband and work to restore your marriage, or

B) be at peace with moving on from the relationship,

...then you've found it.

Making a long-term decision about your marriage after betrayal isn't easy. There are three ingredients that every woman in this situation must have in place in order to reach a decision that she feels alined with:

Commitment

Being committed to your own spiritual, emotional, and mental wellbeing is an essential first step in getting the clarity you need to move forward. No one can make this commitment for you--it must come from a deep desire to break free of the pain, confusion, and fear that will otherwise keep you stuck in resentment and anger for the rest of your life.

Airline attendants tell the passengers, "In case of emergency, put your own oxygen masks first!" and this is essentially what we do in our program--we help you put your own "oxygen mask" on first, so that you can make a decision that aligns with your faith and supports your values.

Support

Countless women have shared their betrayal stories with us and almost all of them have remarked how lonely they've felt while dealing with the pain, despite being active in their church community. It's clear to that the support they've gotten has been either not enough, or not the right kind. Most often this looks like:

-Help for the man (but not for her)

-"Just" advice: "Just hurry up and forgive him..." or "Just leave already..."

Neither of these truly support the healing and wellbeing for the betrayed wife in her decision on how to handle her next steps.

Benefiting from the right kind of support doesn't have to take a long time, but it must be done with care, intention, and sensitivity. This is what we offer.

Discernment

The final ingredient needed to achieve the clarity you're looking for is discernment. We know you have a lot of mental and emotional "noise" after discovering an incident or lifestyle of betrayal. In addition to all the external factors (like time, money, friends, and family) you also have internal factors influencing the way you respond to your situation, not to mention the spiritual warfare you're contenting with also.

Being able to distinguish truth from lies is essential for moving forward in your decision, so that you're not living in anger, resentment, or regret for the rest of your life.

Counseling, therapy, and coaching are all valid, but different modalities for helping a person make productive changes to their life. Coaching as a form of support has its roots in the world of sports and performance, to enhance capabilities and apply the use of practical tools. In short, coaching helps you create. Many clients benefit from working with a counselor or therapist while also working with a coach. Coaching is not intended to be crisis management. Ashes Redeemed coaches are Certified Professional Coaches and credentialed by the International Coaching Federation.

For more on how coaching works, read What Is Coaching?

With over a decade of combined experience in supporting women in their wellbeing and marriage difficulties, we have honed our systems down to an exact science.

The best way for both of us to gain 100% confidence that this is the absolute best way for you to approach your post-betrayal decisions is to jump on a short call so we can get clear on the exact steps you should be taking based on your specific background and situation.

Book a call HERE.